Effort is Everything
I read something the other day and it made me think. Excellent. Thinking is truly a good thing. It should indeed come before speaking/writing (lol). I am sure we all have experienced this. But we read and we learn and I was inspired to do some thinking yesterday. It came to light that someone was struggling with how people were not responding to her blogs. I found that really got my gears going.
I know that here on Buddyslim I have responded to all my Buddies and then even those who do not respond and that is part of the way I encourage myself. I know that life happens and one can not always get on here to contribute. But in order for the site to work people have to work together. I think it is most important to make a commitment to yourself, your goals and your own success. But there are people who depend on the word of others. I really do not like this. I would hate it if people were out there feeling alone because they are not getting responses. In this world you have to use your “voice” or your words and get people to see you. I like my secret time, or personal space or “hey, no body see me” time. I want to be invisible! But if you want people to read your blogs on BUDDYSLIM, people have to make a commitment I think to be involved in other people’s journeys too. I think it is important to try another shoe and not just wear your own. We learn from others I think as much as we learn from our own failures and successes. So for the people out there who are sad that people are not seeing them and their blogs I say, help others where you can and let the wonderful people who are not so different then you or me, let them see you.
I love helping people and I hope that anyone here who has a question can contact me. I will never proclaim to know, but I can share my experience and my wide range of ideas on a variety of topics…. especially feminine health and emotional well being. BUT, some weeks are more busy then others. I try at least once a week to catch up with my Buddies. And I try for weeks often with those who are not around. But hey life happens. We all get busy or maybe Buddyslim is just not what one needs. But I do what I can when I can.
It is really important that people know it is tough to keep up with everyone, but it is so worth the effort. And the one thing I have learned here is that sometimes you have to let Buddies go who seem to need to do their own unique thing. I like to try and keep up with the generous and committed Buddies I have. There are some truly special people out there who just give and give and give. They are so compassionate and what would this site be like without these awesome giving souls?
But we have to commit to ourselves first! Commit to giving back to the site and our Buddies second! And third, give our all to our plans and our goals. That is the same as the first! Well, yes!
I was in a funk lately and a dear Buddy recognized this so she sent me a personal and friendly kick in the butt. And for Shanna, I am grateful. I had 4 slacker days, but I know how to get back. I have done it before and I can still have a good week with my last 3. Yesterday was scary when I woke up, but I had the words of a Buddy to shake me a little. And you know, that is this site. But you have to share a little and get out there and help others. I do not venture out into Blog Land so much anymore, because it is important that I remain committed to the buddies I have. The days seem so short sometimes…. lol Before I know it I will be in my 90s *sigh* :) BUT not before I reach goal! 
I often wondered how one could have 100+ buddies and keep up with all of them. Do some people edit? Ahh….. I am just in the questioning mood today. Hehe…. I have no answers. Just countless questions. I feel alive. I am grateful for you wonderful people. I am off to work my behind off….. If I am successful, some of my thighs will also fall off. I am joking, they are diminishing and I love it.
Waist: 28 / Thighs: 23 (they are firmer…wow) / Hips: 39
Weight: is the same - 156 lbs [JOY! It is not 193.5 like when I started WW 2 years ago (I think)] …… This is me, slow as a turtle. Nothing comes easy OR falls off with out a lot of EFFORT.
Actually EFFORT is everything !!!
That is so true. ALL of it. You get what you give to this site.
So are you telling me that we may be crossing the finish line together with gray hair and geriatric shoes and waving our canes in front of us? LOL
You are such a sweetheart Jennifer. You truly are. I love how your mind thinks. I think I read some of the blogs you mentioned regarding not getting many replies. And I’m in agreement with you that you get what you put into it. I have quite a few buddies. I’m not a person that can hit that “decline” button… hehe Some of them I no longer see here, and I afraid to edit some of them for fear of maybe hurting their feelings. I do have my good and close and fav buddies, the ones that I just seemed to “connect” with, and blogs that I look for because they tend to interest me more than others. When my work is busy, I can’t respond to many. Other days, I’m such a cheerleader I want to reply to them all. Some I won’t because I disagree or do not support what is said. What’s the old addage? If you can’t say anything positive, then keep your trap shut? Something like that. hehe…
My friend, you are and have been making such great strides in your journey… I’m SOOOO pleased and proud for you… In my heart, one day I hope we meet up to celebrate our successfulness in life.
Now I need to put some EFFORT in my work. They do pay me so I feel obligated. HA!
Huggggggggggggggs,
Shan
What a well-written blog and so very true. I have had issues with this myself. At some point or another….(I’ve been on BS for almost 2 years), so I have seen people come and go….I am also very committed to my buddies, so it’s a little disappointing when buddies don’t reciprocate, HOWEVER, life has taught me that not everyone thinks or acts like me (thank God) and part of caring for another human being is ACCEPTING them for who they are. You’re right, taking care of #1 is not selfish, it’s NECESSARY!
I agree with your blog. I’ve briefly seen some Buddies who say they don’t get enough responses but I’ve never seen them comment on mine?!?! Like you said, if you make your way around, people will come to your little corner and give you what you need but I won’t read every single post our there. I read my Buddies and those of people who comment on mine and make themselves known. Unless the title really catches my eye (as something I can relate to), I figure that person has their Buddies they share with…….