Addressing the obsessiveness
I have a buddy on my list and she reached her goal and I thought, “wow is she thin!” And I guess by looking at my pictures one might think this too. I am 5′8″ and have always carried my weight pretty well even when I was high on that scale. Heaviness no matter how you look can still be way to much weight on the joints though. So I see my pictures and I am not blind, I see bones, good grief! So I guess I am working on my legs more in balance with all aspects of good fitness. I have excess weight and skin still on my legs and it may take time beyond my goal weight. That is fine. I just thought I would address this. I do not feel the need to hide my boniness. I heard this weekend from that perhaps bulimic relative that she wears clothes to hide these features. Well, I shall not hide. Rather I am just going to work on things in a healthy patient way. It can seem so hard when you seem so close, but I commit to doing things healthy and not becoming obsessive. I could completely feel myself going in that direction (ED) when I was around her. I mean I felt bad for wearing my tighter jeans after some of her comments. We must address this because weight loss does NOT have to mean obsessive and unhealthy behavior. Having a goal is one thing, but getting all weird with our selves has to be addressed and dead-headed !!! Just some random thoughts 
I hear you WELL on that one! Get this… I’m close to goal, right? So know what I did a couple of nights last week? I SKIPPED supper cause I knew it would bring the scale down. And it did, but just for those couple of days. I knew once I started eating supper again, it would go back up, which it did. Now WHY did I do that? Obsessing over reaching goal, that’s why. Was that healthy. NO! I had no energy the next morning and my workout suffered because of it. Sheesh *slapping forehead*
It’s easy to get caught up in it all, but when we start foregoing healthy ways of reaching our goals, it’s true obsession and a problem. One that I need and want to work on.
Thanks for bringing up this subject. Food for thought (with no calories). LOL
Huggggggggs,
Shan
Healthy and patient, good words for me to live by, I have been wanting to rush getting to goal and I know I have to be more patient, thanks!
I want to comment on feeling bad around the bulimic relative. Would it be helpful to look at it in terms of her transferring her feelings about herself(unconsciously most likely) onto you? My guess is that is what happened. Perhaps, recognizing this process will be helpful in separating from the experience in the moment and looking at your feeling bad as mostly an information about this relative’s (or anyone else’s) feelings about herself. I don’t know if it makes sense but I can talk more about it.
Thats such a good way to look at it all. The healthy way is the only way even if it does take longer and it surely will. Looks like you are doing an awesome job…good for you!!
I think that the most important thing is to be healthy and feel comfortable in our skin, we afterall are the people we have to be around 24/7! I like that you’re recognizing where you could potentially go wrong, and I love your willingness to deal with it, head on!! For all it’s worth, I think you look GRRRRRRRREAT!
Are oyu feeling guilty because you’re trying to lose weight (mhm, fat) even though you’re not utterly overweight? You know much about those things, you could practically do this for a job. Fat percentage is important. Joint stress is important. And weight isn’t as important as the way weight lies on the body.