No feeling bad about ourselves!
I have to always work on this….
I believe the purpose of Buddyslim is to have a place where we can come when we need motivation and when we need to rid our minds of the toxicities of stress AND also when we feel like we might explode from joy with our successes or accomplishments. This inspires others. This place is not a place to feel bad (though it happens). I have felt the stress of not being on enough to help others. I will learn sometimes that a buddy was not well 5 or more days ago. I have felt sadness, but this is something I believe we must try to stop. This is what I have come to believe - This journey and it is very much a personal journey, is about me and my choices, good or bad, they are mine. I must not blame others for my position. When it is the weekend and I am not well and my buddies are not around I do not feel more alone. Trust me, this is not my style. I find what I need. I always have. It is one of the things that I love about me (and I have to work hard to think about the things I like, trust me!). I know where this quality comes from and maybe it is less then ideal, but it is now how I am and I love it. I am very aware of who I can ask for help and who I can not. I never want to make friends feel bad. Here I am, close to goal asking people who are far from their goals “what am I do do about gaining 5 lbs? I feel like such a loser!” Yes this is how I feel, but I am respectful of the fact that though some may get it, it may hurt people’s feelings or remind them of not so good things. Please ladies!!! Believe me when I say we must not feel guilty. NOT HERE! We have so much garbage and stress, let us not be thinking we were not where we were suppose to be this weekend. Hehe…. Chances are we can come up with a list of all the things we should have or could have done. Who could we have helped more or at all? Nope, though I have these feelings too I think we need to work on ridding our bodies of the stress overloading. IT IS SO NOT WORTH IT! Love, love, love ourselves! We do what we can, when we can. There is no greater feeling then helping people, but sometimes I find the person we should be kind to is ourselves. Then when we are truly happy we can be genuine, helpful and positive. These are strong personal philosophies I have and they are stronger lately since I have been….. listening and reading. I am finally understanding faith. It does not matter what that faith is in, but it is tweaking my gears and challenging my beliefs and misunderstandings. I had to unload, because I do not wish to read another apology! BESIDES, I found what I needed and I was glad that I could help a little too. And this site and this world seems very good to me. It seems like anything can happen. For the purpose of our goals, things are going to get done…hey? Work will be worked out! This week I nourish and workout my mind and body and everything comes together as it should. It is that time! Ahhh…. a beautiful ramble and I do not feel the need to perfect it with paragraph breaks….lol Imperfection……But still moving forward……..
Have a good one Everyone!
Anything can happen. We just have to stay focused and not lose sight of that.
Girl, do you know how awesome you are? I have learned so much from you. Yes this is a wonferful site, my safe haven for sure. I would be so lost with out it, and no we don’t need to feel bad here. You are doing fantastic!
Have I told you lately how much I love you Jen? I love your depth of your life and who you are. I love that you write what’s on your mind without regard to anything other than what’s in your heart. I don’t know about you, but I find it refreshing with people live passionately. I find, specially here in Southern California, that people are too superficial sometimes. Everything you wrote in your blog speaks volumes of goal setting and self-love. THANK YOU for inspiring me yet again.
Here’s some unsolicited advice: I find that that when I haven’t been on for awhile, I miss out on what’s been happening with my buddies, but if I had to go back and read every blog my buddies have written in my absence, I would spend TONS of time on here…so what I do, is read the last one they wrote. Now, if something seems awry, I go back and read what they have written in my absence. Anyhow, if you do that with me, I promise my feelings will not be hurt.
On that note, don’t ever worry about hurting my feelings, if you ever have the feeling of walking on eggshells for me, STOP, look me in the eyes, (well in this case into my inbox) and tell me what’s on your mind, I will respect and appreciate you more for it!!
God bless you my sweet and loving friend!
Wonderful to hear from you. I feel a little spacey today, but have missed you for the last couple of days. Take care. I love you. Great week coming. I can feel it. Hugs, Marge
You are amazing and I wish I was as strong as you ! So keep your head up high and reach for the stars ! Hugs!! Kimmi
Jennifer:
Great blog. Really made me think. I took a few hits last week about the blog asking dh to wait about losing weight, kind of made me feel even worse just like you said. So, you are right. I, for one, will strive only to send out positive comments to others and to send positive feedback most importantly to myself!
Confuscious say: You will be a great leader!
To be very honest, I love myself but I don’t always like myself. And when I don’t like myself and feel it, I seek areas ready for improvement. I am not sure if this makes sense to you Jennifer.
I post less and less because it’s kind of tiring to be a cheerleader with a positive, wide, ready smile and do the same squats with the same cheering and the same words… it becomes meaningless after some time. How many times can you say “awesome, inspiration, great, amazing, good, etc..”? I now seek substance… and questions rather than statements.
It’s like navigating in a crowd. You will not talk to everyone you meet on your way, but only with those who look you in a eye and click with your heart. And even then, after talking with some of those people, you still have to move on…
Is our role here to make everyone feel happy? Or is it something else?
Not sure if this actually belongs here in your blog Jennifer. It’s a ramble.
Have a great week,
Tatiana
Jen, I’m glad that you find this site to be a safe haven. I think everyone needs a place that is comfy to just be themselves. I agree that it is so important to be positive and encouraging. You can always find what your looking for if you just keep looking! I love reading the blogs on here and I find yours very encouraging! Thank you for taking the time to share!
It seems I have missed something somewhere while I was away for 3 days (scratching head). LOL
My thoughts on the stress of helping others here. I visit when I can, but my priority is work first, so when that calls, I have to pay attention to that… unless there are buddies here that want to pay me for being here 24/7. I’m kidding, but you know what I mean. I love to help and inspire and be the resident cheerleader, but I don’t always have the time.
We do what we can when we can, right?
Love and hugs Jennifer… ALWAYS love and hugs… you’re special and I always look for your blogs because I always get something out of em.
Now about those paragraph breaks young lady… LOLOLOLOL Jusssssssssssst kidding!
xoxo
Shanna
This is my philsophy though it was another who actually said it. Not sure who said it. Anyways, “we have the power to create heaven and we have the power to create hell”. I rather hope that my words are more positive. I have hurt people with my ideas and knowledge and though I have felt it necessary to share I REALLY never want to hurt people’s feelings.
Thank you everyone for your comments….. You make me think so much…. I appreciate.