Realization. (venting)
And these are my realization that iare actually worth writing about……
I have been completely vain and preoccupied with the wrong things. The only thing that matters is HEALTH (physical and mental of course)! And somehow I have managed to forget this. Well in life you have awakenings and it’s best to listen if not the first time, then best the second. The only thing that matters about my skin is becoming comfortable in it ! The only thing that matters in my life and with my loved ones, is health and happiness. Good food, exercise, happiness, surviving and dealing with stress (psychological and environmental, if at all possible) are so very important, but losing 5 or 10 pounds is not longer tops on my list. David, Oscar and Me are my loves. And of course, there are so many awesome people here too. 
I also realized there are things to work on in my life BUT THEY ARE NOT THE THINGS THAT PEOPLE THINK THEY ARE. There are countless people in my life who feel the need to judge me and criticize me. BUT THIS IS A FACT. People need to look at their own lives before they piss on my choices. For TOO LONG I have taken on the belief that I suck because so many have said that I am not this or that or have this or that. This is what I learn as I get older (and what sucks is I new this when I was young…. I edited my friends when they were hurtful) you do not need negative friends and so often, do not need to be around negative piss pot people! Tis best to be alone. And lonely ladies will say, “well at least you have a man!” And I say “get real!” No man can make up for not having good friends. But now that is Good Friends. I can do with out all the people who are snooty, critical, vile and jealous. Get a life! I am going to try and make the best out of mine. MY WAY.
Venting done. IT is SO very destructive to hold the negative in. Cancer thrives on stress, I believe. But I also know I need to let the crud wash over me and not become a part of me. I feel like such an amateur at loving me and respecting me and yet I know it is important.
Please take care of your precious bodies.
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you are 100% correct, that people need to look at their own lives. they have no right to critisize how you conduct your life, and if that is their guy reaction, to tell you to eat this, or do this, or you SHOULD do this, then.. hun.. they really have a bigger problem than you will ever know. they cant even take a look at their own lives, they must live through other people, and what kind of life is that. you are better than that
and whenever you hear it, just shake it off in pity, because YOU know that they will never have the rich life that you do.
best of luck to ya!!
gut* reaction lol
NOW you’ve got it!
HIGH FIVERRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRSSSSS!!!!!
Buttercup squishy hugggggggggs and *clink, clink* (water glasses),
Shan
Well said Jennifer. We need to put ourselves front and center…loved ones as well. Forget what others say..you are the one who has to live with “yourself” right? Be happy…be healthy, life is too short to live any other way! Love ya!!
Amen, girl!! Hmmm, love that garlic idea, LOL!!
Hold on to those dreams, you are teaching me to do the same! Hugs, Kama
You go girl! It’s really no one’s biz how you live your life or what choices you make and other’snegativity is so toxic, unfortunately. I know criticism just gets me. I used to think was too sensitive but now I think it’s just that I don’t want to be critized all the time!
As for the food and weight and diet stuff - it REALLY is about health and how we feel, yes? Some days we feel shitty and fat and like we have so much more to go and some days we can remember that it is about how we want to live our lives. hopefully those days outnumber the former!
big hugs!
You Rock, as usual! Very brave of you to say that losing 5 or 10 lbs isn’t the top of your priority list. If what we are doing now is making us healthier and happier, then do those 10 lbs really matter in the whole scope of things?? Thanks again, even in your venting I love your blogs!
Jennifer…as I said many time before, going to Italy was a life-changing experience for me. Visiting this beautiful place was not only a dream come true for me, but it was also an eye-opener. The world, life is so perfect, so beautiful. Sure, every once in a while, fate throws us a curve ball…sometimes many curve balls at once, but if we step back for a second and take in the beauty of life, of the world, we can continue on despite our shortcomings.
On people…alas, I was discussing this very point with my officemate…about jealousy and hatred, about criticism and envy…like I told her…you are damned if you do and damned if you don’t….but here’s the deal…at the end of the day, the ONLY person you have to live with is YOURSELF. So do the right thing…not because it is expected of you, but because it’s good for YOU! Love yourself first above all else….because you are a reflection of God. For most of us on this site and for most women in general…self-love is an unachiavable commodity. We were not conditioned to love and respect ourselves…but we must, if we are to live fulfilling and happy, healthy lives.
You are an AMAZING woman, and I admire and respect you a great deal and anyone who can’t see that about you, is not worthy of your time and energy. Jennifer, you are beautiful, inside and out….continue to practice self-love, for us, it takes REAL work to learn to love ourselves, but we must do it and not falter…it is the difference between a full happy life and a miserable lonely one. YOU are WORTH your weight in gold my dear…you truly are!!