Jenn

I completely understand not wanting to spread the negative (she does not like to blog the blah/negative), but our blogs are first for ourselves and our personal growth. I have not wanted to blog the stress, but everyone must decide for themselves what works. My personal experience with blogging EVERYTHING here is that it can perpetuate the negative.  Not always, but sometimes.  We know, I think, deep down what we must do.

I think the key for me has been learning forgiveness and not expecting perfection. I use to record everything to only “fail” I thought and then beat myself up. That is crap. We are hear to live a good life and I think for me that includes good food. The problems comes to be great when we are stuffing the food in more and more only to hurt ourselves. Learning to respect the smaller portions and eating what my body needs has really helped.  And for god’s sake, one does not have to eat everything on their plate if their body is telling them that they are full.  This has really helped me.  Starving kids in Africa will not benefit from me eating everything on my plate and stuffing myself!

I have learned that I eat dairy when I want love. I use to consume a lot of this when younger, when I was sad. So knowing this is power. Sure I can have dairy and treats, BUT WHEN YOU KNOW YOURSELF, it is a lot harder to keep the negative going, I think. Sure I slip, but there is NO MORE guilt. Just move on, eat well/healthy and move, move, move. Exercise is my happy pill and I can not be happy or fit without it.

It sounds like you might need to take some time in your days and just find some peace or find something that brings peace into your space. You will get there and if you are like me, through trial and error It does not make for a stress-free life for those of us who are impatient but it sure does get easier and easier.

I challenge you to not see any one food as evil. Understand, learn or adhere to what you know to be good portions for yourself and savor and enjoy. Really slow down, chew at least 25 times or more. The thing that has really helped me is appreciating what I have, NOT what I do not have.  In life and on my plate.

It is so tough to start something out that seems to come so easy for some. Starting to learn to be our own best friends is a good and necessary start. I believe in you and I believe in all my buddies. We can do it!

Your buddy,
Jennifer