What motivates anger and frustration? How can I find true peace? (update)
In my opinion both anger and frustration are motivated by an inability to look at one’s own self and be in the moment. Plain and simple, we are often angered when it seems that something is external, but rather it is internal.
Example: I was angered here before and created drama with another….wow it seems like it was SO long ago. But what I did not see then in the moment was that she and I were more alike in terms of the topic at hand (weight loss) then we were different. Could that be seen when I did not look to myself but only saw the false external negativity? No. What is the neatest thing EVER was that we found an understanding and respect for each other when we just really saw each other. And I personally saw that that which made me angry was really something I did not like about myself.
People can come together if they just look more inside I think. The truth never needs defending, some one said once and I have since said many times. So why try? Well, sometimes…. I do not know about all situations, but I try to think about this usually.
What a world we would live in if every time there was frustration, mistrust and differences of opinions we decided to go to war?
Peace is found and made in each person’s moment of solitude. Together we can share this, but it starts by looking inside. This is my experience, here at Buddyslim. -A wonderful little haven if we make it so. 
WELL, I believe my pain in life began externally a long time ago, but no one now makes me anything. How I deal NOW determines the state of Me. Am I a little girl who is helpless or am I a woman who can make healthy and positive choices for myself? Well this weekend I really stay with each moment and resist the urge to emotionally EAT. I am going to see my Mom and stepfather (yah Oscar is coming because we are going for a whole day overnight). I must confess I have been stressed thinking about Christmas and this visit, but I am staying in the moment. I am taking with me my strength and I am gathering some belief in myself and I am going to enjoy myself with out drowning myself in comfort food. I may have 2 bowls of Borscht though! And we will play Settlers of Catan! YAH! I shall report briefly next when here how this attempt goes. I am positive now and that is easy. But in each new moment there, I will do my best to be an adult who is writing her own book of grace and peace.
Happy healthy weekend to You!!
*hugs*
Have a good visit Jen. I agree, we were hurt before when we had no control over our surroundings, we were just the kids.
But the childhood is over. Long time ago. We can choose our reactions and can choose to live in the present with the strength, love, and compassion we learned over the years.
As for anger… I think that it comes from the fear of being hurt. And there is a strong need to control… to strike out first… to prevent pain… and it never works.
what a great blog… good things to think about and plan for!!
its so hard in the moment of anger to look inside, but if we see a trend and plan for it, it should be easier to diffuse!
thanks for this reminder.
Now when you mention Oscar in the car, why do I picture in my mind Garfield with all four claws stuck to the window? LOL
Great blog Jen and lots of food for thought. Staying in the moment is SO important. When we are not, then we lose that moment entirely and can miss some really good stuff for worrying about the past or the future.
You mention anger and frustration and finding that peace. I value what you said about it too. I learned several years ago and I tell this to my friends who ask… You cannot change people, places, things. You can only look inside yourself and change those things about YOU that need working on. This has helped me through more trying times than I can count.
Can’t wait to hear how your trip went! Bet it was goooooood. *grins*
Love and HUGGGGGGGGGGGGGGGGS my friend,
Shan
I’m listenting to a 4 cd series that’s called “Where The Mind Goes, The Man Follows”. Some really good stuff and has a LOT to do with our thought processes, attitude, etc. I’ve even convinced my husband to listen to it, and maybe this will help… not only him, but me as well.
*nods head and gives you the peace sign!!
your blog makes complete sense. sometimes it’s hard to step back from the situation… but it is worth doing!