a question & a new way
Buddyslim Politics. Does it seem crazy OR is it a glitch that some blogs remain at the top of the list while others, new buddies especially who are wishing for sincere support, get placed at the bottom of the list? All because in the options setting you can change the time so that one’s blog stays high? Why? I think it only fair that when a blog is posted that it goes to the top of the list. This should not be a place that represents popularity, but rather should be a place that encourages weight loss support for those who need it. If this is a concern of yours, please do NOT comment on this blog about this. It is not affective. Please write Dr. Marc an email with your concerns if you have any.
My blog usually goes to about the 10th or so position and I did not know why until I read a buddies blog stating how this happens. I adjusted the numbers for this blog so people would see it and read it. But my settings are back to normal. If one could answer a question for me, :) what is the purpose of this setting option? I did care a lot about the answer, but now, not so so much I guess.
FEBRUARY !!! Ohhh-yeh!
So I have been thinking that Change is indeed a fine and wonderful little word. And when actions support it, well that is just wonderful. But what do I want for myself? I have been thinking about how I feel about food. Normally the only time I want food it is when I am emotional (not really much of this AT ALL *smiles* lately) and obviously when I am hungry. I have not been craving anything. I just eat when I am hungry and aim for whole and balanced food. I like that a lot. I start to get that feeling of how smaller, non-obsessed people (with food anyways) must feel. It is so peaceful to imagine that.
Earlier this week I felt that overwhelming sense of fear with foods and that is something I need to address at least in words because that is not a way I want to live. But when you feel awful when you eat certain things, or like a buddy suggest, certain combinations, well it kind of makes you wonder about food choices. I have found peace in the fact that this will be over. *fingers crossed* I do have an itsy-bitsy fear that the allergist will say, you are not allergic to anything. I mean I do not want to have an allergy or sensitivity, but I want an answer to the awful feelings. So, fear. Well after a good week I did have a day yesterday where I just fed myself well/a lot and I felt so good. Asian Curry Chicken, Chicken Salad Rolls (no vermicelli, only veggies and chicken) and Singapore Noodles w/ loads of veggies. I ate a lot compared to what I have been eating and felt awesome in all ways!!!
Then I thought to myself, that was such an awesome treat. No I do not want this every week, but damn. I do love food! Eating like this, on whole food/almost no sugar seemed to make me really appreciate it that much more. I do not even want any more today. It was that, a damn fine meal. But now I want the simpler foods. One thing is for sure, changes are seen in this body and I do not need the scale to reaffirm this.
When I was 152 after being at buddyslim for a few months and SO CLOSE to my set goal weight at the time, I was so disgusted that my body was not what I had hoped. But letting the number go and just realising that I have a body to create AND THE NUMBER DOES NOT MATTER and that the process in getting there is kind of fun. Sculpting a firm and True body is much more important to me then a saggy, baggy number-”perfect” body.
So, these are the things that I am gently holding in my hand and in my thoughts as I begin this month. Should I say that knowing that I usually mess things up? I feel like I can tempt it. I finally know what I want and it IS attainable. I think in the past I have had doubts. Like what if my partner and I do not eat the same things and what if we do not eat out enough to satisfy our desires? So often, WE know, eating out is just unsatisfying, disappointing…. Well, I have told him, when I want something, I will have it. He can have whatever he wants. Tis the Intuitive way! :) But the days of me eating because it is there, well that is reserved for those times when I am a little emotional IF I CHOSE and I will have those times I am nearly positive. But there is no need to make a bigger deal out of it then it is. It is one moment and time and it stops when the mind allows it to stop. Why is this sooooo easy now? This week when I fed my body the nutrients it needed with out all the added chemicals and sugars to mess with my brain (emotions) and body (health) I felt the peace. Like no cake or cookie could entice me into feeling any other way. Health and sanity (and I can feel crazy at times) was the big prize! Now that was achieving peace in mind, body and spirit. Before I achieved this state by means of control and now, that toxic way of thinking has been shead. Back into the soil, it is sure to come forth again. But in smaller amounts? I think so. The fear has gone away in this aspect of my life anyways.
Nearly all whole and nearly no sugar. Intuitive Eating is my guide, which means I am the one living this life, uninfluenced by the bloody and perverse advertisements and ideals we too often bow to.
My body knows best.
The Plan: All weeks, no less then 5 days and preferably 6 days of activity
First & Third week- Structured - Strength MWF, cardio/walking M-F and whatever
Second & Fouth week-Unstructured - whatever I feel I want to do and I feel my body needs
Have a wonderful day, week and month! I am not going to be on quite as much, as this is just what my everything in me tells me I need to do. I think I might be finally on a roll, but I need to not procrastinate.
Morning buddy! I have to leave in a few for the gym but wanted to read a few blogs. The great thing about the options is that you get to set it to your desire. There is so much to learn about this website isn’t there?
Like Kama taught me and our tribe how to add your friend’s blog to a fav list I have yet to do it.
What I do is spend time each day catching up on that day’s blog. Also, I try to read new people blogs and get to know them as much as I can but time isn’t always on my side.
Intuitive eating, I can so relate to that. ( have a Superbowl party to go to, guess what? Taking my own food. I can and will not eat the junk that they are serving. It’s fruits all the way.
Once you start making those small changes, creating good habits they stick. I love your goals for this week. Great progress!
Nancy, you are amazingly support and sweet. And you are right, there is so much to learn. Thank you.
I was not aware of any settings but did notice that sometimes mine goes down quite a few and other times it seems to stay closer to the top, altho not for long, but see others come in after mine and go lower. So, Ive been on both sides i guess but dont know about the settings.
This blogging and support site have been a new way for me.
All the best with your plan!
I wouldn’t sweat the blog setting thing so much. The important thing is having the forum, being able to put it all down in words…and, afterall, I found you, so others will too. Just one comment about the “If I want it, I’m gonna have it,” statement. That’s exactly how it should be. Yesterday I wanted a fastfood hamburger so badly that I finally got a “protein burger” at In and Out, which is just a smaller patty, no cheese, wrapped in lettuce instead of a bun. I was totally satisfied, got my fix, and rode out the rest of the day just as I should have. Happy Sunday!
I didnt know about the settings for blogs…agreed that there are so many aspects to buddyslim.
You have a great plan, and I wish you much success!
I have no clue what anyone is talking abt with settings?
I’m so with you on this one. It’s very difficult to deal with ‘food’ but I think that is also because it is a cultural thing.. we not only eat food to survive anymore but we eat to celebrate, we eat during gatherings, we eat at certain times (breakfast, lunch, dinner I mean) and if you really really think about it; doesn’t it just sound ridiculous. I decided to eat at the set times just because I am part of a family and well, lets face it, Im the meal maker so if we all decide to eat when we feel like it, I’d be fixing stuff in the kitchen 24/7. That doesn’t mean however that I have to eat what they eat. But the other times? I decide when I eat food and what I eat. I have to feel good with still going to a friends happy hour horse d’oeuvres (sp) party and not touch the food, and they should be ok with that too.
So, have a great week and think ‘happy’ ! lol
Karin
IO never noticed the settings. How do you do that?
I like your “Intuitive eating” I am determined to eat more “clean” this week, I have been slipping a little, and you are right, I feel way more peaceful without all the junk. Hugs, Kama
Ha!! I was wondering how that worked! And personally…being an old-timer, I resent it. To me, fair is fair and MANIPULATING the site is not fair, plain and simple. That is the reason why I deleted someone from my buddy list, she was notorious for doing this and creating drama on the site. Times like this makes me long for the early days on the site, when people seemed to be more supportive and more honest. If my comment offends anyone, too bad, so sad. It is the truth!
About intuitive eating, I glanced through the book darling and I wasn’t convinced. My intuition is to eat all the unhealthy foods!! LOL!
Good luck this month darling!! I love the newness of each month and of each day!!
I’m clueless about any settings. lol. Which doesnt surprise me in the least.
Best of luck with your plan girl!!
I feel the same as Jo - maybe it comes from being an old timer here, but I just think it’s wrong to manipulate the position of your blog so that it stays on the top of the list all frikkin’ day long, leaving others to wallow and sink to the bottom. The positioning of blogs should not be something we can be manipulating.
To be honest, this has bothered the hell out of me…but I thought that it was just some sort of bug…I did not realize that it was something in the settings. Now when I see people do it, I’m going to have to do my best to not judge them and their reasons for keeping their blog on the top spot.
All while fighting to urge to do it myself just so that I can feel I’m getting equal treatment. *sigh* Just being honest here….
I too have been eating healthier this last week, with whole foods and avoiding processed foods. I’ve never been a fan of fruits, but they are a big part of the new way I’m eating and I’m actually coming to discover that not only am I beginning to like them, I am finding that I am not craving the junk foods like I used to.
Best of luck to you!!!
Ps…so how is it kept up at the top?
Ha Ha Ha, I know, I dont get it either. I had no idea people can set the position of a blog. It seems so silly. I dont get it… Probably never will even if it were explained to me ten times ha ha ha!
Wow Jennifer, I’m an golden ager here at BuddySlim LOL!!! had no ideas about settings, although I wondered why sometimes when I blog I would come up 4th or 5th.
I hope we never neglect anyone who needs help. I’m so guilty of this….the time isn’t always there like I want it to be
I love your love for life Jennifer…it shines right through it your beautiful smile. Your love for people comes from deep within. I’m so happy you are my buddy
Your pictures are just amazing!!!! OMG!!! what an inspiration you are.
Extra Big Hugs
Jane
P.S. please don’t stay away to long, I will miss you…but you have my e-mail
Jennifer, It sounds like you are doing a great job of listening to your body. And that collage of pictures is awesome.
I do have to say that my very first blog I put up stayed at the top forever. I didn’t change the time stamp. didn’t even know you could do that until a few days ago. I have had some that showed up four of five down even though I just submitted them. Then after reading that you could change the time stamp on someone else’s blog, I thought I would just try to see if it really worked and it didn’t! My blog stayed in the exact same position that it was in. I even cleared my cookies and everything. Anyway, the blog order still remains a mystery to me, but thats okay. I just click through the pages and comment on as many as I have time for.
You mean I’m not at the top of the list when I hit “publish”??? LOLOLOL Ask me if I care.
I’m loving where you’re at right now Jenn with your mindset. We get away from those chemicals that dictate our emotions, etc. it’s all so much easier. For me anyway. Much easier to eat for survival (the only reason to eat anyway) instead of eating to satisfy some need or mood.
Lots of peeps here say not to deprive myself, but … FOR ME… I know what sugar does to me, and I have to steer far far away from it. Rare special occasions only for me. And I don’t mean it’s Saturday, or someone’s birthday, or there’s a party to attend. I mean a RARE SPECIAL event that I look forward to and PLAN on. It works for me.
Guess what? I don’t care what the groundhog says, spring is right around the corner. There are too many “signs” I’m seeing at least a month early this year. YAYYYYYYYYYYY!
Have a GREAT week Jenn!
Hugggggggggggggs,
Shan
Fair is fair and regardless what anyone says differently, I think that is what everyone wants.
And, NO, not directed at anyone in particular, but it is good to get the knowledge out there I would think.