Sent to me by a super hawt friend, I send to all spectacular and hawt ladies and men….

This is one to be shared.

http://shine.yahoo.com/channel/health/the-picture-you-cant-stop-talking-about-meet-quot-the-woman-on-p-194-quot-504942/?posted=1

Teary,

Me.

This seems a bit strange to me to comit to for days and days inorder for things to start to really stick.  But it is just like my Paul McKenna CD, eventually I have to review and reprogram myself because no matter what I say to myself,years and years of images and current ideas invade my brain.  Then it’s my turn to tell myself what is true.

http://psychology.suite101.com/article.cfm/boosting_selfperception

In a nutshell…..or my personal interpretation…

1.  Do not think that others are thinking about me.  There is a good chance they are thinking about themselves, like 99% chance.  REALLY, get over myself.  They do not care.  And if they are on that 1% chance, then their life might be really boring at the time.  So give them a brake.  They are like me, not perfect.

2.  If I am not feeling good about something in particular, then balance it with something fun.  Like if I feel bloated because I had too much salt the week of my period, the I do something wacky like where a hat, big jewelry or maybe buy some lipstick!  YIKES, I am completely out.  Need a new non-tested on animal shade.  (You know awhile ago I was on a rant in my world about using products that do not test on animals.  There are a couple products that I still can not find good products to replace the animal cruelty products, but, can not be perfect.  Still, when it comes to make-up which I see as fun and good for my mood, not entirely necessary, I still can not beautify myself with products that have resulted from companies that test on animals.  Anyways, this is still important to me.  Just occured to me to be kind with myself as there are still some products I use that are not awesome in all ways.  Like my laundry detergent.  Nothing beats it so far.  I dare life to send me some effective, unscented detergent…lol)

3.  Focus on my passions and this leaves no time to worry about the negative at the moment zip, excess flab or whatever.  Be happy.  Find the happiness.  What are my passions in life?  I say again, what are they?

4.  Being honest about those negative images is healthy.  I do like to share with people I trust.  Really love me for me and they do not care about my thighs.  Still getting those thoughts out of my head, priceless!  And it creates an intimacy or bond that is wonderful.   Still, people can be around to correct us once in awhile, but chances are they are not there most of the time.  So it is good to catch those thoughts and spin them with positivity.

5.”Body is tied in with your mind that simply thinking about stressful situations raises your blood pressure, increases your heart rate, and lowers your immune system. If you keep thinking about how ugly or fat you feel, your physical health will suffer along with your emotional health. To feel better about your body, focus on positive thoughts and healthy activities.”

This week, I make self image improvement my class that I will not miss.

NOW, I am going to enjoy this body and feed it well, move it to my heart’s content…..and enjoy whole food.  Yes, I have no choice.  LOL….my non-core foods are NO MORE…. love.  I so enjoyed my day yesterday…. Did not even feel over full once, but things can add up.   Ahhhh kind of made a connection…. Just like those negative thoughts.  It’s okay to have a negative thought, but have too many and suddenly the physical health and mental well being are altered.  No matter what it is, extremes just get in the way of good health.

NO tricep comments and no thigh comments from me this week that are anything other then, damn I feel fine and love my form right now and it’s just getting better and better.

What has really got me supporting the fact that bigger is ok-the wonderful example, Alisa Kleybanova was at the Roger’s Cup.   A bigger girl she is, but she was so strong and not once did her size hinder her.  I mean she was phenomenal and she moved so well, NEARLY making it to the finals.  What a tennis player!!!  I am a fan. 

So I have been working on feeding the hunger in the last few days.  But I can be Ms Snacker for no reason other then fear, boredom, sadness, loneliness and I know I am no different then any other emotional eater.  Grrr….I am going to start to stop thinking of myself as that EEer.  I mean I do not really think about food so much, like I use to, but it’s still my go to after weeks and weeks of success.  Well it has been weeks and weeks of just eating, enjoying, some EE and just living.  Not dealing well with stress.  So I am officially no longer an Emotional Eater.  *smiles* 

So I am in pursuit to improve my physical view of the lower half of my body.  So NO MORE NEGATIVE THOUGHTS.  I have to see myself like a goddess or really just quit this all.  So I am chosing to program my thinking and why not start this with being fun and giving myself a nickname…. Limber Limbs, Lightening Legs, Beautiful Legs, Hawt Legs.   Hehe… it’s fun to have a nickname.  :P    Yeh I figured out the poll thing.  LOL 

I want to become what I think….a more positive me!  A successful me!  Thanks to a friend who reminded me that thinking positive brings positive results.

Lately my inner dominatrix got the better of me and I was enticed back into the world of WW.  But I do not even care.  I am not perfecct!   I am not counting points like I use to.  You know, every single point.  Well this time I am rhinkinf about giving Core a real go which means whole foods (in my opinion) for the most part and only counting the non-Core foods which means I have 35 for 7 days.  Also, no measuring and eating until only until satisfied.  I could start today, because yesterday 3 wonderful tasting peanut cookies (one in the form of the dough) were enjoyed 100%.  That would be 12 points down right there.  Yikes!  Sure there were some consequences, and maybe some day I might really get that legumes are not so damn good for me, but I just felt like I wanted so bad.  So I did not deny.  I am not even going to do what I use to do which would be to say NO MORE, cause I know, I WILL WANT, WANT, WANT.  Just going about my day thinking about the joys in my life and having fun.  Getting my stuff done so I can get onto a better stage of life, but still enjoying these moments.

I am not sure what is better…. Start counting my extra points (foods that do not fall into the category of whole foods) on the weekend, this way I have to be good over the week because I am out of points….OR save them starting Monday and then have the weekend to enjoy.   Well I think an experiement is in order.  I will start today, knowing that we are going to the theater and we are having treats.  And then I will feel out the week and see if I am deprived.  I hypothesize (lol) that starting on a Monday and saving up I will feel less like depriving.  If I have the points to freely chose what I can do with them, knowing that we usually like our treats on the weekend (even white rice sushi and sourdough bread are treats as they are NOT Core) then I will be more into eating mostly Core/whole during the week.  But there is nothing as awful on my brain as spending the whole wod having fun, only to have nothing left and then I seem to want more and more and more.

So why the big deal?  Why even do Weight Watchers?  Well I just enjoy my food, but the weight does not want to budge.  There are certain foods that I struggle with when I do not pay attention.  So, I will eat well with the whole (watching the whole grains portions, but still eating them, no recording) but watch the simple sugars and simple startches and will record them.  No meetings.  No journalling.  Just recording the numerical value of non-Core foods.  No depriving… and remembering that non-Core foods are not as nutritious but they ARE not bad.  They simply are foods that contain less vitamins, less minerals, less fiber and I need to monitor my intake.  Maybe I want to be controlled just a little, BUT NOT TOO MUCH.  Life is no fun with out balance.

A special note on healthy fat though… I am not recording healthy fats and the extra oil as Core.  I am simply going with what my intuition tells me is good.  With my ear eczema and sometimes dry skin, I need to just eat as my body tells me to when it comes to the healthy fats especially. 

Yah, off to enjoy my berry almond milk smoothie, pilates work out,  a 3-D movie and a charity steak dinner.

Loved this and it was pure motivation for me.  Plus love the cute aspect.  Thanks to a buddy…

I am working at doing what I want and when I want.  It just makes for a happy me.  Sometimes I mess up.  Usually ’unperfect’ is the best, most interesting and most fun way to be.  Sometimes the laundry does not get done and the place is a mess!  But I will still take unperfect and accepting.

Except Oscar is perfect.  I know this, because he tells me so.

Oscar wants to play The Call of Cthulhu.

Pros and Cons of my two me’s 

The Gentle Me

PROS-forgiving, not obsessive, non-judgemental, focus is subtle but effective,

CONS-seems to not be as affective, seemingly without focus, it takes more effort to overcome the negative thoughts

          - it’s possible to get off track due to emotions and it seems nearly impossible to regain the focus again……

….which leads me to thinking about…….

The Diet Dominatrix

Pros- easier to just listen to a strong and strict voice, effective for some time, seems fun at first, it’s easier when life is tough and confusing because I do not have to work at things as I can do what someone has said is the right way.  Truth be told, there is only one way and that is MY way… whatever the heck that means 

Cons-It is not healthy to be so restrictive, it does not teach me to be gentle with myself, not forgiving, when she says “no” I want, fighting eventually turns volatile, negative views of food and possibly exercise. 

So I know where I need to go.  Get back on my path, realise what I want and just gently find a way…If I stray, gently escort the annoying dominatrix voices out of my head and welcome sanity and my gentle me back in. 

How strange it is that when stressed I have been craving sugary foods for comfort, but the last thing the body needs is sugar in stressful times as both stress and sugar deplete the body of vitamin Bs.   Less Bs, more depression and an inability to deal well with more stress…… hmmm…… It’s hard not to think of sugar as evil.  It just seems that in our society, more is always better.  More, more, more……  

But we are consumed with something.  No matter what it is, there is ALWAYS something that takes us away from our center of greatness.   Unless, the picture is clear.  And it seems the picture is rarely clear….. *sigh* 

Today I re-learned that happiness is within.  Sure sure I have heard this, but how many times do I look and continue to look for that thing that is not in another person and can not be give to me from another.  Happiness is mine, for me, from me.  Funny how you can look and look and become more lost in a forest of unknown.   And then suddenly I am lost in my food, unable to enjoy, because it would seem the world is spinning all around like a massive rollercoaster.  Nope, there has got to be another way…  A return to the Gentle and working on that old self respect and love….

I became empty when I looked outside of me for something more.  This seems strange to me.  Love. 

My mind is a mysterious maze today.  I am taking the day off from thinking. 

I do not really read blogs here anymore and hence I am no longer the buddy I once was.  I am finding that the words out there in Buddyland feed my Diet Dominatrix, and frankly that bitch needs to reduce even more then me!  You know, for my own good.

I feel so wonderful !!!!   Off to create something sensually appealing in my kitchen and have a good day.  Hope a few others out there are re-discovering their great selves and creating some interesting new paths.

I have finally gotten back to eating for hunger, well a little better anyways.  I did so start to eat when I was not hungry and the rewards were NOT THERE of course.  Anyways, I know what doing things right means.  SUCCESS!    It’s not always easy, and sometimes I faulter a little, but it’s a great thing to aim for!  Yeh, positivity….

And last night I had some carrot cake from Alexander’s restaurant which I have been craving for 2 days.  Ang, I did NOT have the Peanut butter pie…I know I am shocked too, but I can do without the peanuts.  The learning lesson here would have been, I could have stopped with 4-5 bites left or more and saved the rest.  I did not.  Better I will be next time.   I did have that ever so slightly too full feeling.

Today, I am bang on!  Good nutritious food and high energy foods and a lighter supper….salad and turkey.

Enjoyed some good weights, lunges, abdominal exercise and pilates.  

Another down!  Eight to go to my mini goal.

What a week.  Enjoyed a mini vacation and felt much love!!!  Saying prayers for my Mom #2 who is facing some health issues with grace and determination.  Of course this woman thinks of everyone she loves first.  She fed her family and myself so well…. I enjoyed picking Saskatoon berries (YUM… Saskatoon berry pancakes) and hanging out with an old friend the most.  Love those friends you have had FOREVER it seems (20 years) and you can actually just BE and feel all that they feel.  Words are not necessary!  Also enjoyed some good walks on the farm.

Did better with the EE this week.  Still I am not tempting the gods by saying I am ON, because I know I would fall on my face as soon as I thought it.  Still, facing the days ahead with as much positivity, realism and determination as I can.  I finally feel like I might have a purpose. Yah for me.

Peace and happiness….

I do not want to vent.  Sometimes I have experienced even more stress when I vent.  Ok, maybe venting the stress in a forest might be ideal because then you would not make others toxic with stress.  Then it would not spread and come back.  I think sometimes it’s a good idea to just breath and listen to a relaxing CD.  I have experienced good results with this.  I have been writing the boo hoo’s for years and it does not cut it.  So….. no toxins released into cyberspace today! *smiles*

What also does not work, getting all cocky about feeling you have overcome something just because it has been working for weeks and weeks.  There must be written somewhere in some Big Book that if you temp the gods or god, they will give you another lesson.  *Bam!* Well I think I did at least a couple times in a few blogs….lol.   At least there is no beating me up.  It’s up to me…..now.

I think I can be normal with eating (my normal), deal well most of the time with the issues of the day, work out normally for me and still lose about half a pound a week.  *fingers crossed*  Will I be down another pound on Friday?  We will see.

Eat when hungry.

Eat what I will enjoy.  (For me this means taking time to prepare good whole foods MORE often and enjoying the food that other’s prepare.)

Eat with awareness and eat slowly.  Sensually eat.

Stop eating when full or pleasantly satisfied. - of course this is the brillance of Mr. McKenna 

A little more processed foods and internal stress lately has certainly broken my balance.  Well,  adjust.

Cheers to a great weekend and coming week……….

Peace in focus.